Are we suppose to get married!?

[Tenken07]

Are we? I didnt think getting married was something christians HAD to do. im posting this becuase of what Argent said to me:

Also, if you spend so much time involved in those things that you are neglecting your progress toward manhood and preparing for a wife, then those things have become idols, and idolatry is a sin. So, seek God first (payer and Bible study), and prepare yourself to be a husband and father (education so you can get a job and support a wife and child, learn some relationship skills before you marry, and gain some parenting skills before you have a child.) Best of luck and my prayers are with you:thumbsup: .


I have no intentions of getting married and having kids. I thought the bible only told us to get a wife if we have a problem with adultery.

[Seeker of the Truth]

Genesis 2:24

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

Matthew 19:3-9

"The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."

I'm pretty sure we're suppose to get married, considering God said that we should become one with our wives (sex) and stay that way.

[Tenken07]

o_O what the heck. I thought we didnt have to if we didnt have a problem with adultery.

1 Corinthians 7 - Now for the matters you wrote about: it is good for a man to not touch a woman. But since there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

I dont have a problem with sexual immorality. So why do I need a wife?

also:
1 Corinthians 7:8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion


I have NO problem in controlling myself, so why should I bother getting a wife?

[arunma]

Genesis 2:24

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

Matthew 19:3-9

"The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."

I'm pretty sure we're suppose to get married, considering God said that we should become one with our wives (sex) and stay that way.

This is actually a teaching on divorce. The salient point here is that it is almost never permissible to divorce one's spouse. However, there are two Scriptures in particular which not only permit Christians to not marry, but actually suggest that there is benefit in doing so.
If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry--it is no sin. But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well. So then he who marries his betrothed does well, and he who refrains from marriage will do even better. (1 Corinthians 7:36-38)

"And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery." The disciples said to him, "If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry." But he said to them, "Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it." (St. Matthew 19:9-12)
So the Biblical answer here seems to be no, Christians are not required to marry. Remember that the Apostle Paul specifically stated that he was unmarried.

[DLMoody]

1 Cor. 7 says it is most beneficial to NOT get married so we can serve God better in our singleness. Marriage is by no biblical means a must. You are in the clear.

[RichardT]

1 Corinthians 7:8 solves your problem.

[Seeker of the Truth]

Oh, well, by all means, stay single. But, one thing I desire most out of life is a loving wife.

[RichardT]

Oh, well, by all means, stay single. But, one thing I desire most out of life is a loving wife.

same here

[Argent]

Are we? I didnt think getting married was something christians HAD to do. im posting this becuase of what Argent said to me:




I have no intentions of getting married and having kids. I thought the bible only told us to get a wife if we have a problem with adultery.
Bro, you don't have to get married. Unless you are struggling with sexual sin in one way or another. What I mean is, if you have the gift of celebacy, which means you don't struggle with sexual temptation, then it's very possible that God has called you to a life of singlehood so that you can serve Him in a particular way (you and He will have to figure out what that way is.).

Now, if you are struggling with sexual temptation and want to become sexually active someday, then God requires you to be abstinent until your wedding night, and until then you are to prepare yourself to be a husband and father. You have to discern all this. Get the counsel of MATURE Christian men in your church to help you. Very few men are called to the single life and given the gift of celebacy. Most of us are called to marriage, and, if God willing, fatherhood. You have to figure it out through prayer and being honest about your desire for sex. Not everyone is called to marriage and fatherhood, but few are called to singlehood and celebacy. If you're not called to singlehood and celebacy, then you are to use this season of your life to prepare yourself to be a husband and father. And both of these roles take some preparation. That's why God give us time to prepare.

If you are struggling with sex in some other way; say, same-sex attraction (homosexuality), then that is a different issue altogether, and you will need a lot of Biblical help and the help of your Christian brothers to overcome it.

No, you are not commanded to marry, but if you are not called to singlehood, you are to pursue marriage.

All for the glory of God.

[Argent]

Go to;

www.boundless.org

search: Marks of Manhood

It's some of the best advice for a young Christian guy preparing for the role of a man.

[Tenken07]

actually, I thought god did call me to celebacy because the day I got saved I had no more sexual urges of my own, and am able to resist sexual temtations VERY easily. heck I usually just brush it off as if it didnt hit me.

[Argent]

actually, I thought god did call me to celebacy because the day I got saved I had no more sexual urges of my own, and am able to resist sexual temtations VERY easily. heck I usually just brush it off as if it didnt hit me.
I am pleased that our Father has spared you sexual temptation, especially at an age when it is a great struggle for a lot of guys. What this means for your future? I think it is probably too early to tell. The next few years will let you know if singlehood and celebacy are for you, or rather that you will be a husband and father. My prayers are with you brother, as you enter into a very important season in a man's life.

[warriorforJesus]

Oh, well, by all means, stay single. But, one thing I desire most out of life is a loving wife.

The one thing I desire most out of life is a closer walk with God.

[mesue]

o_O what the heck. I thought we didnt have to if we didnt have a problem with adultery.

1 Corinthians 7 - Now for the matters you wrote about: it is good for a man to not touch a woman. But since there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

I dont have a problem with sexual immorality. So why do I need a wife?

also:
1 Corinthians 7:8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion


I have NO problem in controlling myself, so why should I bother getting a wife?
It's not just a problem with adultery, but fornication as well. Any sex outside of marriage whether you are married or not. If you feel the need to have sex, then you need to be married. Not dating, not couting, married is what Paul is saying.