Worried about being alone

[adey1986]

Hi, I've just discovered these fantastic forums, what a great way to be with other Christians :). I really feel the need to post this although i'm not sure why i'm bothering you all with it because it's a stupid worry. My worry is this, I'm starting University again on Monday and for the first time i'm going to be totally alone there as my friend who I spent my time with last year has quit. I don't have any Christian friends my age (20) and I am so worried about not being able to find any and so having to be alone. I am going to try and join a Christian group but i'm not sure whether I will be able to attend them as I go back home at weekends to go to my local church. I am a fairly new Christian, I became one in January of this year and so have only heard God in my life from that point onward, because of this I am worried that maybe the course that I am studying isn't for me, I do feel out of my depth compared to my fellow students and I have prayed to God about it so much but I am still there so I assume maybe God does want me to stay on the course. When I think about joining a theological college, it would seem like a great thing to do but a scary one because I would be letting my family down by quitting University. I just really don't know what I am meant to do with my life and I really want to spend my time with Christians my own age.
Sorry if that made no sense whatsoever I just really needed to put my thoughts on here.

Adrian

[SecretBlessings]

Hi

[LifeInChrist]

We all love to be among those who are like-minded to us especially where we are accepted and loved.

You need not consider quitting University just because there is no Christian Friend there for company. You can choose to be among some good non-christians who would respect your beliefs and accept you as you are out of Human Love for you. There is a saying, "If you give love to others, you will receive love from others". You can practice this Christian principle at your University and can apply the Moral and/or Spiritual Truths which you learn from the Bible and from your Church during weekends.

As far as going to a theological college is concerned, it is entirely upto your desire. I mean your desire to pursue the field which you like to be in. I still think it is too early for you to consider joining a theological college, you need to give a few more years time before you decide to join a theological college.

IMHO Going to University and going to Theological college are equal in the sight of God. One is not greater than the other. It is you who makes the difference whether you go to a University or a Theological College.

God will be with you to guide, help and bless you whether you go to a University or a Theological College according to the verse below -

Isaiah 49:15,16 - Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.

God allows circumstances in our life when we lack even a single Christian companion or friend, so that we may learn to rely on God alone and not our fellow-believers-in-Christ. Then, God alone becomes our Father, Mother, Brother, Sister and Friend.

This is my honest and personal opinion. The decision is yours.

Lord bless you.

[salida]

Hi, I've just discovered these fantastic forums, what a great way to be with other Christians :). I really feel the need to post this although i'm not sure why i'm bothering you all with it because it's a stupid worry. My worry is this, I'm starting University again on Monday and for the first time i'm going to be totally alone there as my friend who I spent my time with last year has quit. I don't have any Christian friends my age (20) and I am so worried about not being able to find any and so having to be alone. I am going to try and join a Christian group but i'm not sure whether I will be able to attend them as I go back home at weekends to go to my local church. I am a fairly new Christian, I became one in January of this year and so have only heard God in my life from that point onward, because of this I am worried that maybe the course that I am studying isn't for me, I do feel out of my depth compared to my fellow students and I have prayed to God about it so much but I am still there so I assume maybe God does want me to stay on the course. When I think about joining a theological college, it would seem like a great thing to do but a scary one because I would be letting my family down by quitting University. I just really don't know what I am meant to do with my life and I really want to spend my time with Christians my own age.
Sorry if that made no sense whatsoever I just really needed to put my thoughts on here.

Adrian

You will meet new friends also at universities. Just stay with the ones who are truly God centered and that will keep you on track spiritually. It can be a great experience for you. Feel free to email me anytime concerning this issue- I have been saved for many years and have been to a university. I understand the experience.

Going to a university can be a great experience - you can take advantage of it because you can be a real witness for Christ there.

[Todd600RR]

I promise you that God will place you in an area that you will find good christian people.

[adey1986]

Thanks for all your replies. I'm a just really confused about what God wants me to do with my life, which path he wants me to be on.

[sistakrista]

I don't have a whole lot of advice on this, but I am praying for you, that God will bring you brethren with whom you can fellowship. You know, with Jesus, you're NEVER alone!
God Bless You!

[adey1986]

I don't have a whole lot of advice on this, but I am praying for you, that God will bring you brethren with whom you can fellowship. You know, with Jesus, you're NEVER alone!
God Bless You!
Thank you

[Smileyill]

Choose your friends carefully, but choose some! Get involved in a local church. If nobody's your age at the church, befriend older christian women, they can teach you much. It's also fun to help with Sunday school kids.

[wanderphilos]

I will tell you two secrets of being new to christianity...

1. The Holy spirit will be your comforter and friend no matter where you are physically and spiritually from here on.

2. You are still in the world though you are not of it.

Which can best be understood through Mathew 10:16 - I send you out as sheep among wolves. Be you as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.

Christians are in every profession...you can be an exemplary one no matter where you are or what you do.

[heymikey80]

You could try calling a church you trust in your university town to see what they have during the week. I agree, normally people get connected on Sunday, but I think someone at the church may know what they're doing to serve people at the university.

[natanya]

Thanks for all your replies. I'm a just really confused about what God wants me to do with my life, which path he wants me to be on.
Hi,

Blessings in your new life in Christ!

What course are you studying? Did you choose it because you had an interest or did your parents guide you to it? Are there theological classes (even things like the Bible as literature or ancient MidEast history) offered at your university?

Depending on what degree you are pursuing, you can attend theological training AFTER you finish this part of your education. That way your parents will be satisfied that you can get a job and you will be able to pay for seminary classes.

One last question- what university do you attend? There is an organization called Campus Crusade for Christ International that works on college campuses in several countries. If you are in North America, there is also Intervarsity, Athletes in Action and a few others.

Blessings

[~InHisHands~]

Hi
Hello. :wave:

[gizzergaz]

everyone is so right. I am kind of in the same boat. I go to a college and I don't have any good christian friends here, But I have found some AMAZING non-christian friends. And you know what, I am rubbing off on them, I can tell! God has a place for us all, my place is here to help my friends find the Lord, maybe yours is too.
Best of luck, keep praying!!!

[rita727]

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Isaiah 49:15,16 - Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.

God allows circumstances in our life when we lack even a single Christian companion or friend, so that we may learn to rely on God alone and not our fellow-believers-in-Christ. Then, God alone becomes our Father, Mother, Brother, Sister and Friend.

This is my honest and personal opinion. The decision is yours.

Lord bless you.

Good advice. It helped me out too.

[AvgJoe]

Hi, I've just discovered these fantastic forums, what a great way to be with other Christians :). I really feel the need to post this although i'm not sure why i'm bothering you all with it because it's a stupid worry. My worry is this, I'm starting University again on Monday and for the first time i'm going to be totally alone there as my friend who I spent my time with last year has quit. I don't have any Christian friends my age (20) and I am so worried about not being able to find any and so having to be alone. I am going to try and join a Christian group but i'm not sure whether I will be able to attend them as I go back home at weekends to go to my local church. I am a fairly new Christian, I became one in January of this year and so have only heard God in my life from that point onward, because of this I am worried that maybe the course that I am studying isn't for me, I do feel out of my depth compared to my fellow students and I have prayed to God about it so much but I am still there so I assume maybe God does want me to stay on the course. When I think about joining a theological college, it would seem like a great thing to do but a scary one because I would be letting my family down by quitting University. I just really don't know what I am meant to do with my life and I really want to spend my time with Christians my own age.
Sorry if that made no sense whatsoever I just really needed to put my thoughts on here.

Adrian


A couple of helpful links:

Lonely But Never Alone (http://www.rbc.org/uploadedFiles/Bible_Study/Discovery_Series/PDFs/lonely_but_never_alone.pdf)
How Can I Know What God Wants Me To Do? (http://www.rbc.org/uploadedFiles/Bible_Study/Discovery_Series/PDFs/how_can_I_know_what_god_wants_me_to_do.pdf)

[JPPT1974]

We are never alone unless we
Have Jesus with us!