prayers

[artrx]

I hope this is appropriate to post here. I felt more comfortable asking for prayers here than in some other forum options. My daughter, 17, is a senior in high school, a great student, wonderfully mature in many ways, a National Merit Scholar who, so far, has been accepted to the schools of her choice, ranging from the eastern seaboard to the midwest. I believe she is blessed with a heart to serve others, God ,and an openness and curiosity that wants to explore the world..... Three months ago she began a relationship with the older brother of a friend's boyfriend that has quickly become intense and it worries my husband and me. He is 22, working and going to community college part-time, seems nice enough but the age/experience difference and the world view/religious differences are significant. We want the best for her. We DON"T want to alienate her, but we also don't want her to make life changing choices based on the wrong motives or short-sighted goals. We try to keep open and honest communication flowing... maybe we just have to let go...but the issue seems to be weaving a thread of anxiety in my life that is difficult to deal with, even when I try to leave it in the Creator's hands. Any extra prayers would be appreciated. Thank you all.:sigh:

[PaladinValer]

If he's as mature as you make him out to be, then there isn't a problem age-wise most likely. Seventeen is almost "of age" and she's old enough to make her own choices. When she's off to college, the strings are pretty much cut, and even at home, recognition of maturity and independence is paramount.

That's a tough thing to go through; my aunt's first son is finishing his first year in college, and she is bugging her other son a bit by trying to spend more and more time with him. So in other words, you're not alone. There may be support groups in your area for new college student parents; I suggest looking them up or asking around.

As for religious and world-view differences, you'll have to be more detailed. Needless to say, you are in my prayers. :)

[artrx]

Thank you, PaladinValer. I wrote that SHE was mature in SOME ways, innocent/naive is others. HE is niether innocent nor niave and not as mature I wish he was:{. However, your closer to that age:), so thanks for your input. (I don't feel I am free to be any more specific at this point. )

[TomUK]

I would try and offer advice, but things usually finish rather messily when i do. As such all i can do is assure you of my continued prayers.

:crossrc:

[ContraMundum]

I'll pray for you, but I must remind you that men generally do not mature until they are in their late 40's. She's probably too good for him.

My daughter did a similar thing. It turned out alright when I told the lad that if he messed up I'd kick his ar**. I've spent most of my years working deep sea trawlers so I look like I mean it and very capable of doing it, even though I didn't mean it and never would hurt a flea. All the same, he's not to know that is he? He's been very nice ever since. The two of them showed up in the pews one week, so I guess progress is being made in God's timing, not mine. I looked at him a lot as I preached. Hehehe.

[artrx]

I'll pray for you, but I must remind you that men generally do not mature until they are in their late 40's.

:) tis true, but i wouldn't have it any other way:thumbsup: .

She's probably too good for him.

It's not an an issue of good or bad, it's one of focus and taking advantage of the opportunities she has right now.(I certainly never had those opportunities.)

My daughter did a similar thing. It turned out alright when I told the lad that if he messed up I'd kick his ar**. I've spent most of my years working deep sea trawlers so I look like I mean it and very capable of doing it, even though I didn't mean it and never would hurt a flea. All the same, he's not to know that is he? He's been very nice ever since. The two of them showed up in the pews one week, so I guess progress is being made in God's timing, not mine. I looked at him a lot as I preached. Hehehe.

:D

The prayers are mostly for me, for the wisdom to know when and what to speak and to shut up and let go. Thanks!

(I already feel better for the moment.)

[karen freeinchristman]

The prayers are mostly for me, for the wisdom to know when and what to speak and to shut up and let go.

:prayer: