telling someone to take a hike?

[kamikat]

on another site, where I used to be comfortable, someone is giving me a hard time in PMs and e-mails. This is a Catholic site, that has an Eastern Christian forum, but about half of those are Eastern Catholics. This guy is a recent Catholic convert and is hassleing me about leaving the Church and wants to know why I can't find what I'm looking for in the Eastern Catholic rite. I've tried ignoring him, but if I don't respond after 2-3 days, he sends me e-mail. To be honest, I never looked into the Eastern Catholic rite, so I can't give him a real answer. I've told him repeatedly that I'm happy where I am and I hope that he continues to grow in the Catholic church that he's chosen. Any ideas on how to get this guy off my back?

kamikat

[MariaRegina]

on another site, where I used to be comfortable, someone is giving me a hard time in PMs and e-mails. This is a Catholic site, that has an Eastern Christian forum, but about half of those are Eastern Catholics. This guy is a recent Catholic convert and is hassleing me about leaving the Church and wants to know why I can't find what I'm looking for in the Eastern Catholic rite. I've tried ignoring him, but if I don't respond after 2-3 days, he sends me e-mail. To be honest, I never looked into the Eastern Catholic rite, so I can't give him a real answer. I've told him repeatedly that I'm happy where I am and I hope that he continues to grow in the Catholic church that he's chosen. Any ideas on how to get this guy off my back?

kamikat


Can you put him on ignore?

[Philip]

I think you have done what is asked of you. Ignoring him is probably your best bet. If your software can do it for you, all the better.

[Matrona]

If you talk to him again, ask him if he's ever been to DL at an Orthodox church. But what's probably the best thing to do is ignore him.

[Anhelyna]

Kamikat As an EC I get this from RCs too - so you are not alone. The best thing to do is as all have said - ignore him and keep him in your prayers that eventually he stops being so anitigonistic to others.

I find they cannot understand what I see in the East - truly you get hooked and start to want to learn and understand the meaning of things. It's a different mindset and some folk cannot open their minds to anything different from what is in their experience - nor are they willing to try.

As to practical things - see if you can block him from sending PMs - he has your e-mail addy so you can't do anything about that BUT if he gets really annoying and abusive you may have to take it to the Admins there

[kamikat]

I find they cannot understand what I see in the East - truly you get hooked and start to want to learn and understand the meaning of things. It's a different mindset and some folk cannot open their minds to anything different from what is in their experience - nor are they willing to try.

I tried to explain that I didn't want to argue theology, that's a toatlly different mindset and that I didn't feel like I could grow in my walk with the Lord. He just didn't understand and kept going back to the old arguement of "the churches are so much alike, they both have the same sacrements, they both pray to the saints, ect" He has even asked to if I have ever read the Catechism or been through RICA or even met with a Catholic priest. When I was trying to revert, I REALLY tried to make it fit. I did go to RCIA, I did meet with a priest on a regular basis for a couple months. I'm not one of the Catholics that leave the church because they really don't know the church. He just couldn't understand why someone would question the Pope's authority.

As to practical things - see if you can block him from sending PMs - he has your e-mail addy so you can't do anything about that BUT if he gets really annoying and abusive you may have to take it to the Admins there

I have reported him to the Admins. It's a Catholic board. I was told that he was just looking out for me and trying to help me save my soul from rejecting Christ's Church. Husband said he'd change my e-mail address if it didn't stop soon. Unfortunately, he hosts everything at home, so my e-mail adress has my real name in it.
kamikat

[Anhelyna]

As to the e-mail addy - I will freely admit that I never use my correct [ ie everyday as supplied by my ISP ] address on a board . I have 3 other Web based e-mail IDs I use for these purposes .

Some of them get spammed dreadfully but that doesn't worry me too much - it means my home one is kept pretty free of problems.

One of my Web-based addresses downloads to my computer automatically but the other 2 web-based ones I read on the Web.

I would suggest that you set up something like this for the future - it gives a reasonable degree of protection.

If you want more details of how I have done this do PM me please.

Anhelyna

[prodromos]

I have reported him to the Admins. It's a Catholic board. I was told that he was just looking out for me and trying to help me save my soul from rejecting Christ's Church.
Is it at CA?
If so I'd send a PM to Joe Monahan asking if he wouldn't mind sending a cease and desist note to the offending party. Explain that you consider it harrassment and it is making you wish to leave the forum. As for his emails, try using a basic spam filter that will simply delete any messages from him.

John

[Gnisios]

Ignore him sister. If he wants to share his views about the ECs or other issues, he is always welcome to join our discussion. Otherwise, make it clear to him that harrassement won't be tolerated.

If you don't mind, PM us the URL of the other site and we can ask the moderators there to take some action. Good intentions don't give anyone the right to bother us when we wish to stay away.

[kamikat]

Is it at CA?
If so I'd send a PM to Joe Monahan asking if he wouldn't mind sending a cease and desist note to the offending party. Explain that you consider it harrassment and it is making you wish to leave the forum. As for his emails, try using a basic spam filter that will simply delete any messages from him.

John

You're right. I should PM Joe Monahan specifically. I'm not very computer savvy, so I asked my husband to add this guy to my spam filter.
kamikat

[Gnisios]

You're right. I should PM Joe Monahan specifically. I'm not very computer savvy, so I asked my husband to add this guy to my spam filter.
kamikat

Excellent! :)