Ever wonder?

[ZiSunka]

I'm wondering why there are so many posts in threads that lead to arguments, but so few posts in threads asking for prayer.

I'm also wondering why most of the posts in the argument threads are by men and most of the posts in the prayer threads are women.

[tulc]

I'm wondering why there are so many posts in threads that lead to arguments, but so few posts in threads asking for prayer.
I don't know why. Maybe we're too proud? :scratch:

I'm also wondering why most of the posts in the argument threads are by men and most of the posts in the prayer threads are women
Because women are better then men? :sorry:
tulc(hey I'm just guessing here!) :)

[newbeliever02072005]

I'm wondering why there are so many posts in threads that lead to arguments, but so few posts in threads asking for prayer.

I'm also wondering why most of the posts in the argument threads are by men and most of the posts in the prayer threads are women.

I have wondered about the prayer threads. I spend some time over in the prayer forum and 90% of them are from women. I wish there were more men guiding and leading in this direction, but I guess we can't have everything.

[JPPT1974]

I have wondered about the prayer threads. I spend some time over in the prayer forum and 90% of them are from women. I wish there were more men guiding and leading in this direction, but I guess we can't have everything.

I love the prayer threads
They are awesome
Come on in
Don't be shy at all!

[arunma]

I don't know why men do this more than women, but I think that the way most of us behave towards others of different theological persuasion is not Christ-honoring. I have no problem if someone tries to change my views on a theological issue. But rarely do we do this in a spirit of love. This situation reminds me of the Pharisees who rebuked the healed lame man when he picked up his mat and walked on the Sabbath day.

[SonOfThunder]

Men generally do not open up. We are happier leaning over the engine of a car, making no eye contact and saying to each other, "how you doing mate?" usually the reply will be "ok".

Women will gather and share it in's and out's and also not feel bad about asking for prayer.

Women are compassionate and loving and nurturing.

Thank God he gave both sexes interesting ways.

James

Hope that doesn't start and argument :)

[arunma]

Men generally do not open up. We are happier leaning over the engine of a car, making no eye contact and saying to each other, "how you doing mate?" usually the reply will be "ok".

Women will gather and share it in's and out's and also not feel bad about asking for prayer.

Women are compassionate and loving and nurturing.

Thank God he gave both sexes interesting ways.

James

Hope that doesn't start and argument :)

No argument, so long as you replace "engine of a car" with "particle accelerator." ;)

In all seriousness, though, this does not excuse us from pouring out our wrath on Christians who don't hold the same theological views as us (and I'm not even talking about Catholics). This should call to mind the following Scripture:
And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. (James 3:6-10)
Indeed, these things should not be so. So I hope that everyone who reads this thread will treat fellow Christians with more respect. Every one of us is guilty of this sin at some level, so everyone has room for improvement.

[daveleau]

I'm wondering why there are so many posts in threads that lead to arguments, but so few posts in threads asking for prayer.

It is sad. People often forget what Scripture teaches about how to talk to our fellow Christians. And, many times, people are too tied to their own beliefs and post to make points rather than to learn. More respect, less emotion, more listening, less closed-mindedness woud help. This does not mean opening our minds so much that our brain falls out. We need to focus more interest in seeking the good in other groups rather than tearing others down. All tearing others down does is make them angry and less likely to listen to others.

I'm also wondering why most of the posts in the argument threads are by men and most of the posts in the prayer threads are women.

In my extensive work in many forums on this site, there is no correlation between gender and problematic posting. That's all I will say about that. :)

[Jenka]

Hm, I'm not sure, but Christians really like to debate, esp. concerning Theology!
I don't mind a conversation with people that have opposing view-points, but when it becomes personal, and could hurt a person, I have some problems with that.
As to the prayer, well, I think women can open up easier...*shug* maybe it's all just a coincidance!

~Jenka

[ZiSunka]

In my extensive work in many forums on this site, there is no correlation between gender and problematic posting. That's all I will say about that. :)

I'm not sure you would be the most unbiased opinion on this matter.

[daveleau]

In my extensive work in many forums on this site, there is no correlation between gender and problematic posting. That's all I will say about that. :)

I'm not sure you would be the most unbiased opinion on this matter.

Wow...Dave turns the other cheek. I am sorry if I have done anything to make you think less of me. I promise that I have dealt with my fair share of both men and women in regards to the issues you discuss.

Regardless, I think it is possible for people to be more civil. It just takes a sincere adherance to Christian principles from Scripture. It seems that the anonymity of the internet illuminates the character and Spiritual maturity of people either for good or otherwise.

[ZiSunka]

Wow...Dave turns the other cheek. I am sorry if I have done anything to make you think less of me. I promise that I have dealt with my fair share of both men and women in regards to the issues you discuss.

Regardless, I think it is possible for people to be more civil. It just takes a sincere adherance to Christian principles from Scripture. It seems that the anonymity of the internet illuminates the character and Spiritual maturity of people either for good or otherwise.

Dave, you needn't make out like I have offended you. You know what I am talking about. I can't discuss it here without violating at least two rules, the one that says we can't discuss PMs and the other that says we can't criticize mods. I think sometimes you use these two rules to your advantage, all the while making out like you are an innocent party. :(

You are right, the internet can illuminate a person's hidden character and spiritual maturity. I especially like it when a poster harrasses and harrangs another all the while making it out like they are concerned about the person's spiritual condition. This way they not only get to judge what they don't want to understand, they get to seem spiritual and even paternal or godly doing it! :D I think that says more about a person's spiritual character than anything else can. What a person does in their PMs may be the most revealing, because they can feel completely safe knowing what they say and do there can't be exposed without there being dire consequences to the one who reveals them.

It is possible for people to be civil, but that has to include all people, not just the ones whose ideas are not popular. I have seen many people leave this forum because they were being disrespected by the very people who think they are the kindest most holy people who are only interested in the welfare of the person they were harrassing.

[Robinsegg]

I'm wondering why there are so many posts in threads that lead to arguments, but so few posts in threads asking for prayer.

I'm also wondering why most of the posts in the argument threads are by men and most of the posts in the prayer threads are women.

I've actually wondered if the lack of male leadership in prayer issues is a spiritual attack on the Church herself? God put men in leadership roles for a reason, as is stated in Scripture. Therefore, if men aren't taking that leadership (or not taking it seriously), it suggests to me that there's spiritual warfare going on.:sorry:

Rachel

[ZiSunka]

I've actually wondered if the lack of male leadership in prayer issues is a spiritual attack on the Church herself? God put men in leadership roles for a reason, as is stated in Scripture. Therefore, if men aren't taking that leadership (or not taking it seriously), it suggests to me that there's spiritual warfare going on.:sorry:

Rachel

Good point Robin. When the men are busy vying for alpha dog status, it doesn't seem important to them to be involved in something passive like prayer, they think they have to do something active and aggressive so they can "win". This is not leadership so much as dominance.

[arunma]

I've actually wondered if the lack of male leadership in prayer issues is a spiritual attack on the Church herself? God put men in leadership roles for a reason, as is stated in Scripture. Therefore, if men aren't taking that leadership (or not taking it seriously), it suggests to me that there's spiritual warfare going on.:sorry:

Rachel

I think you have a good point. It would be helpful if the older men on this forum took a leadership role in prayer, instead of wasting their anger on theological disputes.

[ZiSunka]

I think you have a good point. It would be helpful if the older men on this forum took a leadership role in prayer, instead of wasting their anger on theological disputes.

Amen and Amen! And not just the older men, but the younger men, too. I think this forum would be a different and much better place if they would.

[arunma]

Amen and Amen! And not just the older men, but the younger men, too. I think this forum would be a different and much better place if they would.

Sure. Find some teens, and I'll keep them under control.

[ZiSunka]

21 is pretty young arunma.

[arunma]

21 is pretty young arunma.

Yes I know, which is precisely why I don't volunteer for any real leadership roles.

[ZiSunka]

Yes I know, which is precisely why I don't volunteer for any real leadership roles.

In a lot of ways, I would say you are more qualified than a lot of other men twice your age. You are quite wise and articulate for a man of any age.

[newbeliever02072005]

In a lot of ways, I would say you are more qualified than a lot of other men twice your age. You are quite wise and articulate for a man of any age.

I'll 2nd that!

[the truth]

I have often wondered that also Why there is so little prayer requests made why the evangelism forums and missions forum are very slow most days while fun and games and other non worth while topics explode with replies. It is trully sad. God bless. :)

[Danfrey]

I find the medium of the internet to work very well for theological discussions. It is kind of like books and encyclopedias. They are great for conveying ideas, but not real great for relationships.

For me, prayer is something that is more hands on. No pun intended :) It feels very strange to type a prayer. I read the prayer requests, but my prayers are verbal or silent, but just not typed.

[arunma]

Tracie, you and Lambslove are giving me way more credit than I deserve! Now I just hope I can continue to meet these expectations.

[ZiSunka]

Tracie, you and Lambslove are giving me way more credit than I deserve! Now I just hope I can continue to meet these expectations.

You are too modest. I find your posts to often be filled with wisdom and knowledge. I love to learn from you.

Don't worry about meeting anyone's expectations, just continue to be your self. :hug:

[Chris Norwood]

I'm wondering why there are so many posts in threads that lead to arguments, but so few posts in threads asking for prayer.

I'm also wondering why most of the posts in the argument threads are by men and most of the posts in the prayer threads are women.


I disagree!


(now some woman needs to pray for me) :P

[JPPT1974]

We need to put aside our differences
Work together
Not judge others!