Help wanted: apply within

[onlooker]

I have searched all over the forum to find a place to post this. Maybe I overlooked it or perhaps it doesn't exist.
I am looking for an accountability partner. I know idealistically this should be someone from my church. I am struggling with my relationship with Christ right now, and simply am not comfortable seeking someone from our church. I am close with everyone there and may be too embarrassed to be truthful.
I'm not picky. Can be male or female. Prefer a Nazarene, but remain open. lol...basically I'm an EOE.
I am looking forward to building a deep and personal relationship with someone so I can be up front, open and honest.
In return, I am willing to be an accountability partner for anyone who needs one. Thanks, Troy.

[contriteheart]

Hi Troy,

I think you are doing a good thing by looking for an accountability partner, but I'd like to make a suggestion, if I may. I see from your profile that you are married. Please consider limiting yourself to a male accountability partner. It is not really healthy for a married man to be telling things to a woman that he does not tell his wife. Also, it can be a very dangerous way to open oneself to temptation to an adulterous affair.

I know it may not sound possible, but it happens all the time. Better to be safe than sorry.

I will pray that you will find the right person to help you in your journey with Christ...

Blessed Advent!

With love in Christ,
Grace

[ContraMundum]

I have searched all over the forum to find a place to post this. Maybe I overlooked it or perhaps it doesn't exist.
I am looking for an accountability partner. I know idealistically this should be someone from my church. I am struggling with my relationship with Christ right now, and simply am not comfortable seeking someone from our church. I am close with everyone there and may be too embarrassed to be truthful.
I'm not picky. Can be male or female. Prefer a Nazarene, but remain open. lol...basically I'm an EOE.
I am looking forward to building a deep and personal relationship with someone so I can be up front, open and honest.
In return, I am willing to be an accountability partner for anyone who needs one. Thanks, Troy.

Brother,

Don't find an accountability partner online. Get a married male in the real world. That would be the right thing to do, it will help you get serious about this.

[ClementofRome]

Troy,
I must agree with the others on this. Online (and YES even here at CF) some folks are just not who they present themselves to be! Accountability through cybermeans seems to be a bit of a contradiction. In reality, I am not accountable for anything that I say online, because I can change my identity in a moments notice.

We do a pretty good job of trying to keep that sort of thing to a minimum here at CF, but it still happens. Is there not one man in your church with whom you have a more close relationship than with others? Is there another Christian male in your workplace with whom you could approach with your plan?

Blessings,
Clem

[onlooker]

GraceMercyPeace, I was never worried about a female accountability partner. I have some online friends of the opposite sex and have never had questionable thoughts about them. "Cybering" is definately not my thing. I can tell my wife anything...but she's my wife. She sees me day to day. She knows my world, and has possibly become immune to the things that bother me. I just figured a fresh female perspective on certain issues my be a breath of fresh air.
I have taken what you said to heart though, and realize it's better to not take that kind of chance. Just because it hasn't happened, doesn't mean that Satan wouldn't use any kind of comfort on here as a useful tool for his gains.
Thank you.

Contramundum and ClementofRome, I know all too well of the false identities in the cyber world. I guess I was being a bit naïve to think that people on here couldn't be possible of the same things I have encountered in the past. I have chosen to simply enjoy in the fellowship of others, make new friends, share my thoughts, and to grow in Christ on here. I will find another married male to talk face to face with in regards to this matter. Thanks to the both of you as well.

[charvel]

Agree that online accountability is weak,could be more harmful that helpful. I really believe if you ask God for direction He will show you the way. I've never had one other person to account to.I tell God everything (as if He doesn't know) but that's just me. I'm outgoing too,I have other friends with similar life struggles that I turn to when I feel something going on with me.Hoping the best for you Troy. Keep visiting with us.

this is kind of odd as my name is Troy as well. ha