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ED1071

17th November 2005, 09:45 PM

ClementofRome

18th November 2005, 12:20 AM

Hi, I am an older man that is recuperating from open heart surgery and I am trying to write a paper and I need some help if you can. What I need is this: have you or someone you are close to left a church for some reason and have gone to a different church.
Example: New people went to there denomination church in there new town and after the service was approched by two ladies and were told that the children belong in sunday school as the church service was for adults. The father of the children just said "when I go to church my children go also, good day ladies" and never returned.
thank you and may god be with you. ed1071

Welcome Ed! I have left a church but it was for purely practical reasons (distance) so I cannot address your question, but I am sure that you will get some response in due time.

Blessings,
ClementofRome

MoonlightParade

18th November 2005, 12:37 AM

Sorry, completly off topic...
Clement, since when have you been Calvinist?

Onesimus85

18th November 2005, 01:20 AM

Hi, I am an older man that is recuperating from open heart surgery and I am trying to write a paper and I need some help if you can. What I need is this: have you or someone you are close to left a church for some reason and have gone to a different church.
Example: New people went to there denomination church in there new town and after the service was approched by two ladies and were told that the children belong in sunday school as the church service was for adults. The father of the children just said "when I go to church my children go also, good day ladies" and never returned.
thank you and may god be with you. ed1071

I left my church for nearly one year. I visited other churches in the area of different denominations. The pastor at my home church was... flakey. He preached a watered-down version of the scripture. He would preach one thing from the pulpit, but would not back it up in the street. I dare say that he was spineless... afraid of hurting feelings. More concerned with pleasing people than pleasing God. However, after the church was appointed a new pastor I went back.

rowena

18th November 2005, 01:46 AM

I left my old Nondenom church because the worship part of the service was becoming more like a rock concert meant to entertain the people at the service, instead of honoring God. Plus, I was starting to have serious doubts about some of their theology.

SandyLou

18th November 2005, 11:18 AM

hmmm.. . . .. I left a demonination/congregation. . . the pastor preached hatred and judgement. The Sunday School class was a hotbed of gossip (or as Chondra Pierce describes "sharing of prayer needs")
I came to the UMC, never intending to change denominations however I immediately found acceptance and the Word in action. That was 8 years ago and I've never regretted that decision.

ClementofRome

18th November 2005, 11:24 AM

Sorry, completly off topic...
Clement, since when have you been Calvinist?

Since before you were born grasshopper. Were you not paying attention in class? :) Onesimus and Andrew and the others knew! :)

ceedaisy

18th November 2005, 01:03 PM

My Aunt left my Church because she didn't feel supported by the pastor (who has resigned) and by the congregation. And my In-laws and my household just about left too, because of dirty politics. However we have decided to wait and see since we have a new Pastor who seems really sincere and cares about everyone. Unfortunately the board members are still the same.

Celticflower

18th November 2005, 01:41 PM

When we moved from PA to TN my husband decided we should go to a non-denom instead of the UMC. We left the first non-denom because the pastor (hired to replace the one they had when we started ) was a total jerk! His sermons were more convoluted and less easy to follow than an episode of "Connections". He also viewed any church that had any denominational ties to be non-Christian, and made sure all members of the congregations knew it.

We now attend a different non-denom, but there are still stumbling blocks for me (since I was baptised as an infant they harbor doubts about my Christianity/salvation as well :sigh: ), but they have a decent children's program.

servant4ever

18th November 2005, 05:26 PM

When I was a child, my parents did because they were teaching some things that my parents didn't agree with.

5stringJeff

22nd November 2005, 02:39 PM

I left a church once due to theology. I started going because it was a denomination close to that which I grew up in. After about a year, I began to notice that the theology was very liberal, which I did not agree with. That's how I came to the Nazarene church.

Penguin50388

23rd November 2005, 11:42 AM

I left a Church, it's a long story, but I'll try to sum it up for you.

I felt no spiritual growth there (the main reason)
No one was growing from my influence there
The Pastor and I had serious confrontations (ending with him calling me a Cultist)
And a couple other things that I won't get into as they are trivial and would have in no way caused me to leave a Church, they just enforced my decision to do so.

contriteheart

29th November 2005, 09:37 PM

Yes, we recently left a church we had been at for about a year (since moving to the area). Leaving a church was very unusual for us, as we have never been church-hoppers. It was a non-denom that seemed to have great teaching, wonderful outreach programs, etc. What they didn't seem to have was a sense of community or heart fellowship with one another. It was more like a training school. People came, worshipped, sat and listened, studiously took notes, and went home.

I also found after some time that I had issues with some of their basic theology, so between that and the lack of fellowship, we knew it was time to look elsewhere. Hope this helps.

With love in Christ,
Grace