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Vicissa
22nd April 2005, 01:10 PM
:mad: I'm fuming mad right now. Just can't take this anymore.

Some of you have heard about my sister before. Let me give you a quick background/update on her. My little sister is spoiled rotten. She doesn't have a GED, dropped out, doing drugs. My parents let her do them, supply her with money. Bought her a new car. She's 19 and they treat her like a baby. A very drug dependant baby.
She got involved with a guy not too long ago. They went steady/had sex for about 1 year. On her first b-day together, he ditched her. Her second birthday this year, he dumped her again. I mean cold dumped her. She cried for a month. Cried to me. Mind you she never came around or even called all the time when things were good between them. So we support her, give her advice. She doesn't follow it. She has sex with him again because he says he loves her. After he's done he tells her he lied and just said it to get her in bed.
She's a basketcase after that.
Her father (my stepdad who was in the hospital) when he went into the hospital, she called him for support and decided to start having sex with him again but it was "just sex." No emotion. Yeah right. So while her dad was in surgery, serious surgery, she was out with him. And she cares about her dad so much. Now that her dad is out of the hospital again, he won't call her anymore. All this time, he has had a GF and she has known it. She got into an arguement with my mother because she went nuts after he quit calling again. She wants to check herself into a mental facility. Not to get help, she says to get a vacation from her home life, which is the root of all her stress. This girl's only problem at home is they do too much for her. She says after she gets out she's be able to get "really baked" when she smokes weed, and she isn't ready to give that up. It's not bad.

Than to top it off she says that I don't talk to her anymore. Over the last month I have made it a point to call her, ask how she's doing. Invite her over. She says yes but never comes over. I quit asking a while back because she always changes her mind. She spent my son's birthday with her little jerk, even though she told the kids she would come. But I've made an effort to get her over more again.
It really hurts that I've come to the realization that my sister doesn't care for anyone but herself and what makes her feel good.

What really drives me crazy is I have never said anything, nor has anyone. I mean we've told her she should quit drugs, that he is user. Yada-Yada-Yada. But no one has ever called her out on her selfishness or told her how lucky she is. The problem with her parents is they let her get away with too much and take care of her too much.

Telrunya
22nd April 2005, 04:32 PM
That she wants to go to a mental institution for what ever reason would be more than enough for me concidering all her problems. Cheif of which you pointed out is self-centeredness. I would hop in the car go pick her up and make sure she got checked in. 1 they do not allow illeagal drug use in a mental hospital, 2 they do not allow sexual activity in a mental hospital. 3 if you check her in then she can't just walk out the door when she feels like it but would have to stay until the doctors felt she had her head on straight again. I would be encouraging her. This isn't a bad thing. You might also concider an interdiction. Leave your mom and stap dad out of it if they are practicing weak love. Get any other family members old friends , church members what have you together. Grab the girl and make her listen. THEN drive her to the mental hospital.

suzybeezy
22nd April 2005, 04:48 PM
:mad: I'm fuming mad right now. Just can't take this anymore.


What really drives me crazy is I have never said anything, nor has anyone.

As a former spoiled brat myself, I have always done exactly what everyone lets me get away with. And unless someone told me they didn't like my behavior, I continued doing what felt good to me. I mean, I'm older and have learned to grow up, and I've chosen to not be so selfish anymore. But your sister is enjoying living life for herself. And probably won't stop until someone brings it to her attention how hurtful her actions are. I'd wait till you're not so mad and then talk to her.