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Father Rick
18th April 2005, 02:16 PM
I posted this in a thread over in P/C. Since I know there is carryover between here and there, I wanted to post it here as well-- since it applies equally to you guys:

One of the difficulties of ministry is that many times you don't have anyone that you can just talk to.

As a priest, you're always suppose to be right. You're always suppose to know what to do, and how to do everything-- so it makes it difficult to really engage in good dialogue about different subjects. Here I've found a bunch of folks just about as crazy as me who will tell me to 'go stick in your ear' if they don't agree with me (in a nice way, usually). It's been great having people just to be friends.

What you guys don't know, because I've never discussed this on the forum...

When I first found this forum on accident, I was going through one of the most difficult periods of my life. My wife and I had just been through 4 disrupted adoptions within 1 year, including a baby that we had had since he was brought home from the hospital at 3 days old (my wife had even named him). Two of the children had lived with us for over a year when the adoption fell apart and they were taken away. I was hurting so bad inside that I had pretty much shut myself off from everyone, even the people in our church. I was still going through the motions, but no one-- not even my wife-- was able to get 'inside'. How do you explain to people what if feels like to lose 4 of your children?

During that time I found a group of friends here who didn't expect anything of me-- they just became my friends. And I was able to come here and 'escape' and just chat about God. Many times these chats were the only thing that kept me going. I would re-hash with you guys all the things that I had seen God do-- and I would read your stories of the work of God in your lives as well-- and it would give me hope to keep going.

As I write this, tears are literally dripping off my face. There will never be enough words to express the appreciation I feel for so many of you who just let Jesus shine through you-- even though you had no idea of what was going on.

I can only say "Thank you!"

PaladinValer
18th April 2005, 02:46 PM
You are welcome! :hug:

May the Pax Christi always reside in and with you.

julian the apostate
18th April 2005, 03:18 PM
i will never forget that post,

i come to these forums for similiar but not as sad reasons
(i lost a million and half dollar home, my xk8,xj8,993 porsche,suburban,infinity my business my confidence my sanity)
and still had to figure out how to support a wife 6 children and my daughter's boyfriend and my grandchild without any resources whatsoever and by myself

i have never told anyone on a forum all this before

my families economic devastation was so awful , the rumor at my kid's school was that my wife and i had been killed in 9/11 and all the kids were sent away to relatives

thank God we actually all stayed together my wife my kids all of us

marciebaby
18th April 2005, 03:22 PM
I don't feel like I can say "you're welcome!" because I'm pretty new here, but I"m so sorry you've been through so much pain! I've appreciated your wisdom and insight so much and am so glad you are here!

AveMaria
18th April 2005, 06:46 PM
Oh, Father Rick, your presence and participation here is such a blessing, and I'm glad we've been able to provide some support and fellowship for you.

*Wiping away a tear or two*

romaneagle13
18th April 2005, 07:11 PM
Father Rick, I am happy that we have been able to give you some comfort and escape. I can sympathize with you a little. I have some dear friends that wanted to adopt a foster child that they had raised for nearly 3 years. The child's biological mother was a druggie who repeatedly failed drug tests and lived on welfare with her boyfriend who had been in and out of jail. Visitations proved that she was careless (possibly abusive) and he often came back scraped or bruised from her apartment. Every time she failed a test, my friends felt closer to getting this little boy. He had come to them emotionally scarred and very quiet and socially underdeveloped. He has blossomed under their care into a happy, physically and psychologically healthy little boy who loved their daughter as a little sister (indeed the only "sibling" he has known). Last month my friends went to court for the final hearing--and the judge granted permanent custody to the birth mother! Apparently after all the problems they had documented, the social workers changed their story to support the mother. I pray for little Chris, that the Child and Family Services Department that has failed him won't have ruined him for life. My friends have decided never to do foster care again after seeing how CaFS doesn't really care about these kids--they only care about their jobs. So after seeing what they have been through, I can understand how it can be so painful to give your love to child that you want to believe is yours only to have the rug pulled out from under you.

I pray that the Lord will send you comfort and a child to love. Whenever we can be of help to talk, please let us know.

benedictine
18th April 2005, 07:54 PM
Father Rick, anytime we can help, let us know. May God be always with you and your family. :)

TomUK
19th April 2005, 06:29 AM
Have a hug, albeit a manly one!

:hug:

gitlance
19th April 2005, 08:59 AM
Father Rick,

You are the one that WE should say "thank you" to! You have provided so much loving help and encouragment here, and especially in my life. I am so thankful for you and your willingness to help others, even when it's apparently been hard. That is the mark of a true Christian. I know I speak for everyone here when I say that we all truly love and care for you, and we are so incredibly grateful that God sent you to us!

THANK YOU!!!

Lance

outcast4christ
19th April 2005, 09:13 AM
father rick you are so welcome and thank you as well. you are loved very much by the Almighty Father and by all of us here at cf. i'll be praying for you and your family through this rough time. again thanks for being here.

Fish and Bread
19th April 2005, 09:39 AM
Father Rick, it definitely works both ways. Even though we sometimes disagree, I find myself quoting your posts so much that it's a wonder my family and friends don't think you're a priest in my parish! You're a real blessing for this forum. It's very rare to find a clergyperson who's willing to discuss things on a message board like you do and you are extremely personable as well. If I'm ever down in Florida, I'd love to drop by your parish one Sunday for a mass, not just to see an Old Catholic church in action, but also to hear one of your homilies.

And you're dead on about this forum. There is a sort grace-filled spirit here that isn't always present in online religious circles. I have some things I feel down about also, not to the degree of your difficulties, but nevertheless this forum offers a great escape. I love to be able to talk theology in this much depth with such amiable people.

John

RedneckAnglican
19th April 2005, 09:45 AM
As I write this, tears are literally dripping off my face.

Oh my...mine, too...you are loved...by GOD and I'm sure by all of us...anything you need my brother let me know...