I can't be the only one

[plum]

short post out of frustration with myself:


I always have to be right. If someone makes a point and I feel that it makes me look less correct or less smart, I have to put in the last word.

PRIDE! yuck.

But I doubt I'm the only person who feels they always want to be/have to be right.







ok i'm done now. :sigh:

[s_gunter]

:sorry: No, you're not. I always have to be right too.

[visionary]

When you can be comfortable with self in the midst of humble acknowledgement of wrong doing, saying or thinking, then you will receive anointing from the Lord.

[beej7]

I always need to be right, too. I work so hard on being flexible, letting go, and so on. I have a permanent groove on the tip of my tongue where I've had to bite it to keep quiet. :) I hate that in myself, too.

Beej

[Velcro]

Miss Ju, you are precious (and beautiful, too, if that's your photo).

My problem is that I am wrong so much of the time that I have come to accept that I am wrong so much of the time that I have come to accept that I am wrong so much of the time that I have come to accept that I am wrong so much of the time that I have come to accept that I am wrong so much of the time that I have come to accept that I am wrong so much of the time that I have come to accept that I am wrong. I've gotten used to it.

Not only do I make mistakes all the time, but I am a complete clutz. That has calmed down some, but i used to be such a clutz that I had bruises from head to toe that I could not account for, and I would often find bleeding places on my arms and legs, but i did not know how it happened -- I had gotten so used to that, that I quit feeling it. I used to look at a curb and fall down. I could not stand on a three-step ladder at one time! I have had to teach myself to be able to stand near a 4-foot precipice!!!! I cannot handle going across a swinging bridge.

Furthermore, I used to think I was a great cook, until I found out I am really a LOUSY cook. If I apply heat to food, I will ruin it! I thought I could sew wonderfully, then I realized I couldn't do that either!

There are few things I am really good at. I can:

Draw portraits
Study well
Draw most things
Write poetry that makes people laugh or think with a smile
Create things on the computer that are unique (for work and for fun)
And that's about it. So I am wrong a lot. I've gotten over it and learned to laugh about it! Perhaps its my age. :D

[Bon]

short post out of frustration with myself:


I always have to be right. If someone makes a point and I feel that it makes me look less correct or less smart, I have to put in the last word.

PRIDE! yuck.

But I doubt I'm the only person who feels they always want to be/have to be right.







ok i'm done now. :sigh:

It's a recurring arguement my DH and I have on a regular basis. :D

Who's right, and who will get the last word in?

I get really annoyed with myself over it, because I should know better than to be prideful and arguementative.

I am learning to bite my tongue like beej7, which is not easy since I know I'm always right.....Hehe!....JOKE! :D

Seriously though, in my case, I have noticed that age is mellowing me...so, by the time I am around 80 years old, I should be a pretty agreeable old bird. :)

I find that reminding myself regularly, to react with humility helps.

Best thing to do is keep on studying the Word of God and to continually strive to apply His will to your life. And the main thing, which is a great beginning, is that you are aware of your shortcomings....and are looking for ways to change.

22 years of those "not so great" personallity traits cannot be changed overnight. Don't be too tough on yourself. :hug:

Shalom from Bon

[Tishri1]

I love you guys, while other people are finding the most intrieging,intellectually stimulating theologically astute concepts for conversation; we find ourselves challenging one another with stinky heart issues...I love that about you guys...I like the other stuff too but this is so good for us.

ok here is MY confession, I hate to be wrong when the other person is bullying me or someone I love. Then I will spend weeks looking for someway to trash that bully...that is sooo uncool but that's what I do....ahhh I feel better now... so when I feel the urge to do that again can I dig up this thread and ask for prayer you guys?

PS I haven't done that in a long time so don't feel worried:eek: anyone:wave:

[doresilence]

oh my goodness! yes!

you are most certainly not the only one. i am just as mouthy with G-d as i am with other people, too, which isn't good. i have been asking him to humble me recently so he placed it upon my heart to silence myself for him and for others. i am fasting from my voice right now and have been for 3 days. of course, i slip up once or twice a day and yell ow or no or something but it's been so helpful. it has made me examine everything that would come out of my mouth. normally when i think of something i just say it and i have thought about each one of the things i wanted to say a few seconds after i would have said it and realized that it isn't completely necessary to say. sometimes it just is inconsequential information and sometimes i realize i shouldn't say things like that because it's hurtful or... just unecessary to make others feel less important or inferior because i think i'm RIGHT. and if I'M RIGHT THEN YOU'RE WRONG.

if you go to my livejournal (username=althingsthruhim), then you can read my experiences so far (since thurs). this is the first time i've ever fasted from anything and i love what i'm learning!

[plum]

wow, what encouraging and enlightening responses.

you know, that fast might be a good idea. I am working on ridding myself of a bad habit I just realized I had: roleplaying/imagining conversations in my head. like guessing what the other person will say and then responding to it... it's a vicious cycle and i want to stop! it causes me to grow feelings of anger, resentment, and i learn to assume things instead of letting them just happen how they may! big, bg bad problem to conquor here.
and another bad habit like it: I rephrase and edit sentences and arguments and jokes and even insults after the fact- after I write or say them. This causes me to concentrate on "what i could have done" instead of "what am i doing now". I want to let go of conversations and emails, etc. and not act like i have to take control of every reaction someone else has to what I say.

I love you guys, while other people are finding the most intrieging,intellectually stimulating theologically astute concepts for conversation; we find ourselves challenging one another with stinky heart issues...I love that about you guys...I like the other stuff too but this is so good for us.
I don't get to talk about my inner workings very much, so it helps to at least have a chance to sum them up with fellow believers! I often prefer this kind of conversation to theologically explosive ones...

[Tishri1]

I just think it's great how we're all so supportive here, Like I said when I first came here...I was looking for a place just like this where you can learn and grow in love and friendship:groupray: This place and you guys are awesome!:bow: