My Dad the priest

[benedictine]

Well.... My Dad wants to be a minister. At the same time he's having an adulterous affair with a woman whose been married four times.

(We think. He wants to go through a training program that many people use as a stepping stone to the Diaconate, and possibly to the priesthood[at least in my diocese])


Your comments, or suggestions for how I don't go crazy?



There are some other things about him that are very questionable, some of you may know, if not feel free to ask me.

[PaladinValer]

Be careful in telling him how you feel. My best advice is to tell your current priests that your father unfortunately doesn't have the maturity for ordination and explain why. If you feel it necessary, do so as a confessional (as I'm sure this must hurt you), so it would be confidential.

My apologies for your trials. May they be allieved soon.

[Songspinner]

Can he just jump into this leadership program, doesn't he have to be recomended by the Diocese or something?

[CSMR]

Somoeone needs to point out to him that he should not regard himself as faithful, let alone attempt to become a minister, and that he would only become a scandal to the church if he did.

[benedictine]

Apparently he may just want to be a permanant Deacon, but still...
I think the rector of his Parish may be able to reccomend him.

[Songspinner]

Apparently he may just want to be a permanant Deacon, but still...
I think the rector of his Parish may be able to reccomend him.

But WOULD His rector recomend him...how much does he know about his flock???

[benedictine]

:sick: He just might. His rector apparently knows about the affair, and is "uncomfortable", but still lets him and her(you know who I'm talking about) teach Sunday School, help with the Youth(though he hasn't spoken to his own SON in 6 months), and she's on the vestry.:mad:

[AveMaria]

oh, Benedictine, that has to be a really uncomfortable position for you to be in! Their affair is still going on?

[benedictine]

He says since march. He says that she had nothing to do with him moving out, but he met her about three months before...

[Father Rick]

Most dioceses have a 'discernment' process for those pursuing holy orders. This usually includes interviews, mental health screenings, background checks, interviews with the family, etc. During this process, you can contact the diocese and share your concerns (or even before the process begins for that matter).