Need a parents help

[he_is_risen!!]

I've noticed that lately my parents, sister and myself have been kinda at eachothers throats about a lot of really dumb stuff. So I wanted to try and fix it. Last night after in my small group I waited till my dad adn sister were asleep then I went to talk to my mom about it. I figured that i would just tell her the way I saw stuff and felt. And it went pretty well for the most part adn I think that I got some of my point across.
Unforunatly I said to her that sometimes I felt that my sister and I had been doing most of the chores around the house. I ment that the way she gives us so much stuff to do, since she's working now, that it seemed that we were doing most of the stuff. That's when she kinda went off cause I guess she thought that I didn't notice or care about what she did. I tried to fix it and better explain myself last night. ANd I thought that I had succeeded. However this morning my sister said that I had made her cry. I feel like cr*p!:mad: I want to fix it and make it better but I don't know how to. Please I really need help.:help:

[Entertaining_Angels]

My best advice, do your chores cheerfully and give your mom more frequent hugs. God bless

[candystripes]

Sometimes we mean well, but we dont do well. My advice for you is that you go to your mom and apologize to her. With a new Job and the Job of being a mom and wife, things can really get stressful and when we are stressed the slightest thing can cause us to act unseemly. Sometimes we may even be unfair to those we love and not even realize it. Womwn especially has a tendency to get very emotional and we dont want a trophy for what we do, we just want to feel appreciated. I know you love your mom, or you would not have posted thi. So go back to your mom and apologize and let her know you appreciate.

PS.

The next time you have an issue to address. address it when she is not already tired or streesed. At theend of the day is usally when we try to recooperate from our day. Dealing with co-workers, employers and employees, people with road rage etc. It's hard to go home and here complains when you have been trying to do your best all day. So next time wait till her day off and choose your words tactfully. Do your part to help out as much as you can. It may seem like a lot of stress on you. But sit down take a pen and weigh out her and compare it yours, Then ask yourself;:confused: Am i doing my best? If you are then there is nothing more you can do. If you are not, get mom some flowers give her a big hug and start doing your best. It's never too late.:amen:

[Rosieace]

:cool: Hey, i've been there and done that, with 10 brothers and sisters that i grew up with, and my mother worked. My older sister and i did everything, and nobody ever helped us. What i would do now, is pray this prayer: Lord, you see how this situation is with my mother and you know i want her to be happy and especially with me, and Lord, i give this situation to you,and i leave it with you to fix because i cant fix it. and i thank you Lord for taking care of this situation for me, in Jesus name,Amen. Then say Thank you Jesus for taking this problem off my hands and for fixing it for me. Thank you Jesus, Praise you Jesus. Just keep saying that until He does it.
Rosieace:wave:

[JVD]

What OreGal said....Do it!

[helmikaarina]

It's a wonderful thing you have your chores. We all have. It's not always easy to like them, but they have to be done anyway. I like to think that these chores at home are not specially mom's or anyone else's but everyone's duty. And if we are lucky enough they are shared and done so that nobody has to do more than one can. Love is more than a feeling, love is more than words, it becomes visible in everyday living. Do you think your mom would be delighted if you (along with doing your chores with joy) sometimes did a little bit extra. "Would you like to have some coffee... I'll make it to you" etc.

Some thoughts of a mother

[A. believer]

I've noticed that lately my parents, sister and myself have been kinda at eachothers throats about a lot of really dumb stuff. So I wanted to try and fix it. Last night after in my small group I waited till my dad adn sister were asleep then I went to talk to my mom about it. I figured that i would just tell her the way I saw stuff and felt. And it went pretty well for the most part adn I think that I got some of my point across.
Unforunatly I said to her that sometimes I felt that my sister and I had been doing most of the chores around the house. I ment that the way she gives us so much stuff to do, since she's working now, that it seemed that we were doing most of the stuff. That's when she kinda went off cause I guess she thought that I didn't notice or care about what she did. I tried to fix it and better explain myself last night. ANd I thought that I had succeeded. However this morning my sister said that I had made her cry. I feel like cr*p!:mad: I want to fix it and make it better but I don't know how to. Please I really need help.:help:We parents are always second-guessing ourselves, rarely confident that what we're doing is right (whether it is or not), constantly battling feelings of guilt for real or perceived flaws in our parenting. It's such an awesome responsibility being a parent and it's extremely difficult to "measure our success" in any tangible way. More than likely, what you said to your mom wasn't necessarily out of line--it sounds as if you were just expressing your feelings, and perhaps hoping to discuss them. Maybe some changes could be made, or maybe that's just the way it needs to be to keep things functioning well in your home. But it probably provoked in your mom feelings of uncertainty which led her to become hyper-defensive. Perhaps you could go out of your way to give your mom some more affirmation for what she does do, and she might feel at least a little bit more secure. She might then be more open to hearing your perspective and not taking it as a personal criticism.

Also, don't make the mistake of thinking that every discussion that doesn't immediately have the effect of making everyone feel warm and fuzzy is necessarily a failed attempt at communication. Sometimes we have to experience emotional pain in the process of learning to understand each other better and to respect each other more.

Probably things have already been patched up by the time you read this, but I hope you might still consider what I'm saying. God bless!

[WesWoodell]

Simple - Do what your Mama tells you.

[xenia]

My best advice, do your chores cheerfully and give your mom more frequent hugs. God bless

I've read a lot of advice dished out on these forums, but this is probably one of the wisest pieces of advice I've seen!

:)