Log in
Register
Search
Search titles only
By:
Search titles only
By:
Forums
New posts
Forum list
Search forums
Leaderboards
Games
Our Blog
Blogs
New entries
New comments
Blog list
Search blogs
Credits
Transactions
Shop
Blessings: ✟0.00
Tickets
Open new ticket
Watched
Donate
Log in
Register
Search
Search titles only
By:
Search titles only
By:
More options
Toggle width
Share this page
Share this page
Share
Reddit
Pinterest
Tumblr
WhatsApp
Email
Share
Link
Menu
Install the app
Install
Forums
Discussion and Debate
Discussion and Debate
Ethics & Morality
Kid's Corporal Punishment - a Risk to Mental Health
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="stevevw" data-source="post: 77659330" data-attributes="member: 342064"><p>The only specific and relevant belief associated with violence and abuse is belief in violence and abuse. Not belief in hierarchies, rigig roles, Trad marriages ect. </p><p></p><p>That is exactly what the PRIBS and the other articles I linked that explain the controlling and abusing mindset that believes in violent abuse and control. Understanding the mindset helps understand why some use hierarchies to abuse and control. </p><p></p><p>But it also helps understand how some abuse and control in any situation. Limiting it to hierarchies and roles seems to limit the possibilities that the controlling and abusing mindset can think of ways to abuse and control. </p><p></p><p>The specific belief that underpins abuse is the belief in controlling abuse and violences. Thats it no more. So all we need to do is understand the type of mind that would believe this. Not the specific beliefs of hierarchies and rigid roles. They are not abusive or controlling in themselves. </p><p></p><p>So its the mindset that believes in absue and control generally. The specific expressions of this mindset with examples of abusing hierarchies or roles are just the expressions of the controlling mindset. It could be applied to anything, relationships, pets, TV sets, friends, business partners, grandmas, entire systems ect. Hierarchies and roles are nothing special for the abusing mindset.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes they do. I linked evidence showing that 'Low Frustration Tolerance' is directly linked to abuse and violence. Like I said I can show you how the other core beliefs directly relate. The many articles that highlighted awefulizing and self downing of the abuser supports this. </p><p></p><p>As the abusing and violent mindset is not just about control as in demanding controlled situations but also the psychological distress contributes to creating the unreal thinking about self, others and the world by distorting things, making them worse than they are. </p><p></p><p>Thus the self downing and awefulizing contributes to the demandingness and that feeds into the awefulizing and selfdowning. They are all interlinked and involved. Its just Demandingness is the most direct core belief related to control. But that would not happen to the point of abuse unless the other core beliefs are playing their part. </p><p></p><p>This is evidenced by the number of times awefulizing and self downing is referred to in the articles I linked in the form of 'Low self Esteem' and 'Unreal expectations and beliefs' which make things far worse than they are. </p><p></p><p>So your saying the top sclae for measuring parents beliefs and attitudes about parenting cannot measure the most important beliefs about child abuse. Thats like saying a scientific measure in physics cannot measure electrons. </p><p></p><p>Thats what I actually said. That people engaging in unrealistic thinking and denial will inevitably lead to some sort of inappropriate behaviour or outcome. Even if that may be losing money, your job, hurrting yourself, risky and anti social behaviour. Or minor issues like arguements or blaming someone for something they didn't do. </p><p></p><p>So in that sense your supporting my arguement that belief is the result of unrealistic thinking that makes situations distorted into what they are not or causes people to deny reality due to some personal issue or experience they don't want to face up to. This mindset left long enough can result in major behavioural problems for self and others. So its really degrees of unreality and other factors which build and determine the severity of the outcomes. </p><p></p><p>Each individual is different and each circumstance is different. The combination of severe distress and other risks and stressors can build to abuse. </p><p></p><p>What may be a clinical level of distress for one and they don't abuse due to protective factors another who may go on to abuse. A common distres sis anxiety and depressive disorders in abusive parents and these are really everyday problems in modern society. But some can handle this distress better than others and some may have other contributing factors that add to the distress making it harder to cope.</p><p></p><p>But the simple fact is the evidence shows that the vast majoirty if not all who end up abusing and becoming violent has distress of some sort plus no or little protective factors. Its like a perfect storm that builds to abuse and each persons perfect storm is not the same as people see things differently and what one person can handle another cannot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="stevevw, post: 77659330, member: 342064"] The only specific and relevant belief associated with violence and abuse is belief in violence and abuse. Not belief in hierarchies, rigig roles, Trad marriages ect. That is exactly what the PRIBS and the other articles I linked that explain the controlling and abusing mindset that believes in violent abuse and control. Understanding the mindset helps understand why some use hierarchies to abuse and control. But it also helps understand how some abuse and control in any situation. Limiting it to hierarchies and roles seems to limit the possibilities that the controlling and abusing mindset can think of ways to abuse and control. The specific belief that underpins abuse is the belief in controlling abuse and violences. Thats it no more. So all we need to do is understand the type of mind that would believe this. Not the specific beliefs of hierarchies and rigid roles. They are not abusive or controlling in themselves. So its the mindset that believes in absue and control generally. The specific expressions of this mindset with examples of abusing hierarchies or roles are just the expressions of the controlling mindset. It could be applied to anything, relationships, pets, TV sets, friends, business partners, grandmas, entire systems ect. Hierarchies and roles are nothing special for the abusing mindset. Yes they do. I linked evidence showing that 'Low Frustration Tolerance' is directly linked to abuse and violence. Like I said I can show you how the other core beliefs directly relate. The many articles that highlighted awefulizing and self downing of the abuser supports this. As the abusing and violent mindset is not just about control as in demanding controlled situations but also the psychological distress contributes to creating the unreal thinking about self, others and the world by distorting things, making them worse than they are. Thus the self downing and awefulizing contributes to the demandingness and that feeds into the awefulizing and selfdowning. They are all interlinked and involved. Its just Demandingness is the most direct core belief related to control. But that would not happen to the point of abuse unless the other core beliefs are playing their part. This is evidenced by the number of times awefulizing and self downing is referred to in the articles I linked in the form of 'Low self Esteem' and 'Unreal expectations and beliefs' which make things far worse than they are. So your saying the top sclae for measuring parents beliefs and attitudes about parenting cannot measure the most important beliefs about child abuse. Thats like saying a scientific measure in physics cannot measure electrons. Thats what I actually said. That people engaging in unrealistic thinking and denial will inevitably lead to some sort of inappropriate behaviour or outcome. Even if that may be losing money, your job, hurrting yourself, risky and anti social behaviour. Or minor issues like arguements or blaming someone for something they didn't do. So in that sense your supporting my arguement that belief is the result of unrealistic thinking that makes situations distorted into what they are not or causes people to deny reality due to some personal issue or experience they don't want to face up to. This mindset left long enough can result in major behavioural problems for self and others. So its really degrees of unreality and other factors which build and determine the severity of the outcomes. Each individual is different and each circumstance is different. The combination of severe distress and other risks and stressors can build to abuse. What may be a clinical level of distress for one and they don't abuse due to protective factors another who may go on to abuse. A common distres sis anxiety and depressive disorders in abusive parents and these are really everyday problems in modern society. But some can handle this distress better than others and some may have other contributing factors that add to the distress making it harder to cope. But the simple fact is the evidence shows that the vast majoirty if not all who end up abusing and becoming violent has distress of some sort plus no or little protective factors. Its like a perfect storm that builds to abuse and each persons perfect storm is not the same as people see things differently and what one person can handle another cannot. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Discussion and Debate
Discussion and Debate
Ethics & Morality
Kid's Corporal Punishment - a Risk to Mental Health
Top
Bottom