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For those of you in the know, it seems my church used to sing a mix of songs including some you might hear on contemporary Christian radio. Then that stopped. Now it's all songs I have never heard of. There are a lot of good praise and worship songs out there that you might hear on the radio but...

Depending on the church you attend, being single over a certain age can be intimidating. You look around and all you see are couples and some young singles. Maybe a few seniors who have lost spouses but often with family. Maybe you have no family at that church or even in town. You are coming to...

This might be slightly off-topic, but you guys are my peers so I thought I would ask this here. I know it's been kicked around a bit in other places so forgive me if this is a retread. I am single (divorced) and have found that I am happiest being alone. I am not anti-social. I just don't need...

I hear that a lot and certainly understand the statement. I've run into Christians who see two types of Christians. Those given the "gift of singleness", and called to a life of service, or everyone else. I would suggest a third. Those who may not have the true gift of singleness yet wounded by...

In my brief research, I've found two primary approaches churches take to singles. One approach is to provide some kind of singles ministry (might be called college and career) up until around 26 yrs old. Some might have some ongoing singles potlucks or other events, but after that age it is...

Communication is a key part of marriage or any relationship. I often hear single women say they are looking for an emotionally open man. I think women like to share their feelings more than men do. I can be talkative but prefer silence most of the time. I am highly intelligent and my mind likes...

Background, 30 years ago I attended a CC for 6 years. The first 4 were awesome then that pastor left and we got a new one. He was a young guy straight from CC Costa Mesa where he was on staff. As he took over I came to find out that what I had experienced the first 4 years was not as much the...

I think we sometimes have pretty black and white thinking when it comes to singleness. We assume the vast majority are called to marriage and the small percentage who aren't are called to stay single so they can devote their lives to ministry. If you elect to stay single but don't get super...

I'm sure the profile writing coaches would strongly advise against this level of honesty but if I didn't care what anyone else thought, I might add these things to my profile: If you have more than one picture with a pet in it move on. If you say you are looking for someone who can "talk for...

I am never sure how much to relate about myself in dating profiles. Some people believe in keeping it light and saving anything heavier for once you get to know each other. I tend to want to save people time by sharing a bit more. Some counter my idea by suggesting that if I share too much...

The normal calling for Christian singles is marriage. We recognize there are those called to singleness for the purpose of some ministries but for everyone else marriage is the normal state. Churches understandably gear much of their ministry around the family. If you don't have local family...

As a single divorced father of 3 and someone who has no siblings or other relatives nearby and only recently some contact with my kids after 6 years of no contact I share the following. My church rightly places a lot of emphasis on the family. We have the usual children's ministries, youth...

Not sure if this is unique or not but I find myself still very much attracted to women both physically and to talk to but not enough to want to go out often. I am pretty much a homebody and like people contact in small doses. I think the attraction factor though keeps me thinking I should date...

I am interested in hearing thoughts on this article: Popular Charismatic Worship Artist, Kari Jobe, Teaching Dangerous Theology. My sister just went to a Kari Jobe concert and was disconcerted by the amount of repetition and how loud it was. She felt something was amiss. Not much talk of Jesus...

My pastor gave a sermon on Sunday (taking a break from 1 Corinthians) about getting so busy this time of year that we miss out on Christ in Christmas. He used the story of Mary and Martha to illustrate. Good stuff but as a mature single it seemed so foreign although it's not just about being...

The term asexual can have a lot of nuances to it. No two are identical. I stayed a virgin until I got married at nearly 30 years old. Once married I soon discovered my wife had no use for sex other than to get pregnant. Otherwise she avoided it and when I shared with her how that was hard for me...

I ask after just reading an article off-site about confirmed bachelors. They were writing about men who never married. I am a man who should never have married but did but now am a confirmed bachelor. Some such men still date and while they say they've been upfront about not wanting a...

I am going to keep this as non-specific as possible as I don't want to violate any policies and there is no need for me to get specific. So hopefully this is ok! One thing that holds me back from getting into relationships is that I have some health issues that prevent me from having any real...

I wish I had the proverbial nickle for every time Matthew 18:20 is quoted: "For where two or three gather together in My name, there am I with them." I hear that used constantly in all kinds of contexts as though if 2 or more of us are gathering to pray or worship or fellowship then God is...

I am 56, divorced, and living alone. I had a very traumatic childhood and it has led to chronic depression, issues with anxiety, social phobia, PTSD, and health issues like low thyroid, low-T, and adrenal fatigue. I am on meds for all of the above. My thyroid and low-T have been addressed. The...