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I would appreciate PRAYERS for healing. I have a brain disorder that causes me to have very few thoughts and a very poor memory and I want to help others and be there for them but it is very difficult when I dont hardly have enough thoughts to even know were to start.

I know God may not heal me but I have not given up yet because I have so much desire to serve him, help others and learn so much more about him.

Many people say that I compare myself to others to much by saying you can't compare the amount of thoughts you have with how many someone else has. Not realizing they are comparing me to others by say things like “why do you do the odd things you do” or “if such and such can figure out all this out you can too”. Or “don't you ever listen to what people tell you!?”.....

I have no Idea what it is like to even have 1/2 the amount of thoughts that most people have in an hour mabe alot less than that idk. All I can go by is how even most little kids can figure out things that I couldn't even almost figure out and the amount of things they say…I dont have near that many thoughts, never have and probably never will

One of the hardest things is that MOST people treat me like I have the brain like the advarage man has. But I don't. I am living with my parents that love me very much but they think they can help me live on my own but I know and God knows that is IMPOSSIBLE the way I am. Life is scary for me, not having having many thoughts means not being able to figure out were to stand, how much to eat, how to avoid somone on a grocery ile, not having any Idea if I am doing to much( like work and such) and not being able to figure out how to have a conversation ect...

I would ask that you would not be quick to judge me for being scared. if you had a brain like mine you would understand the nightmare I have to fight through to survive to serve God( the best that I can) and help others.
Love you all-- Jay
 

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Said a prayer for you, Jay. And welcome to CF! I have just the opposite problem - I think way too much. God bless
Thank you! Sometimes I wonder what it's like to think too much. I can't even imagine....
 
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I would appreciate PRAYERS for healing. I have a brain disorder that causes me to have very few thoughts and a very poor memory and I want to help others and be there for them but it is very difficult when I dont hardly have enough thoughts to even know were to start.

I know God may not heal me but I have not given up yet because I have so much desire to serve him, help others and learn so much more about him.

Many people say that I compare myself to others to much by saying you can't compare the amount of thoughts you have with how many someone else has. Not realizing they are comparing me to others by say things like “why do you do the odd things you do” or “if such and such can figure out all this out you can too”. Or “don't you ever listen to what people tell you!?”.....

I have no Idea what it is like to even have 1/2 the amount of thoughts that most people have in an hour mabe alot less than that idk. All I can go by is how even most little kids can figure out things that I couldn't even almost figure out and the amount of things they say…I dont have near that many thoughts, never have and probably never will

One of the hardest things is that MOST people treat me like I have the brain like the advarage man has. But I don't. I am living with my parents that love me very much but they think they can help me live on my own but I know and God knows that is IMPOSSIBLE the way I am. Life is scary for me, not having having many thoughts means not being able to figure out were to stand, how much to eat, how to avoid somone on a grocery ile, not having any Idea if I am doing to much( like work and such) and not being able to figure out how to have a conversation ect...

I would ask that you would not be quick to judge me for being scared. if you had a brain like mine you would understand the nightmare I have to fight through to survive to serve God( the best that I can) and help others.
Love you all-- Jay
I prayed for you, that God can help your brain improve processing power, or at least help you feel solace for the condition that you have, even if no healing takes place. For myself, I think too much, with an ADHD brain. I'd rather have my thoughts reduced by 50%. You might be blessed to not think as much as many people, which means you might be less prone to anxiety.
 
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I prayed for you, that God can help your brain improve processing power, or at least help you feel solace for the condition that you have, even if no healing takes place. For myself, I think too much, with an ADHD brain. I'd rather have my thoughts reduced by 50%. You might be blessed to not think as much as many people, which means you might be less prone to anxiety.
ADHD doesn't sound like much fun. But one of the biggest problems for me is I can't really make freinds very easy, because I forget most of what they say and I don't have enough thoughts to keep a conversation going. It makes me feel quite lonely MOST of the time. So not that fun...
 
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ADHD doesn't sound like much fun. But one of the biggest problems for me is I can't really make freinds very easy, because I forget most of what they say and I don't have enough thoughts to keep a conversation going. It makes me feel quite lonely MOST of the time. So not that fun...
Well, I do not have many friends either. We are the same. Do not worry, though. I can be your friend here, though it is not the same as IRL.
 
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My reaction to English is also relatively slow. But my thinking has built a bridge between English and Chinese. After all, most people in this world are not smart enough, and we can build bridges with them by slowing down the pace.
 
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My reaction to English is also relatively slow. But my thinking has built a bridge between English and Chinese. After all, most people in this world are not smart enough, and we can build bridges with them by slowing down the pace.
Do you know what it's like to get a big long lecture about all the things that you are doing wrong by you your own father, and all you can do is shiver and shake because your brain cant process and think at the same time? No thoughts to leave or defend yourself. All you can do is sit there and take it like a beating because thats the way your brain works? I am not trying to sound rude Just trying to explain it is not just thinking slow.
 
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I would appreciate PRAYERS for healing. I have a brain disorder that causes me to have very few thoughts and a very poor memory and I want to help others and be there for them but it is very difficult when I dont hardly have enough thoughts to even know were to start.

I know God may not heal me but I have not given up yet because I have so much desire to serve him, help others and learn so much more about him.

Many people say that I compare myself to others to much by saying you can't compare the amount of thoughts you have with how many someone else has. Not realizing they are comparing me to others by say things like “why do you do the odd things you do” or “if such and such can figure out all this out you can too”. Or “don't you ever listen to what people tell you!?”.....

I have no Idea what it is like to even have 1/2 the amount of thoughts that most people have in an hour mabe alot less than that idk. All I can go by is how even most little kids can figure out things that I couldn't even almost figure out and the amount of things they say…I dont have near that many thoughts, never have and probably never will

One of the hardest things is that MOST people treat me like I have the brain like the advarage man has. But I don't. I am living with my parents that love me very much but they think they can help me live on my own but I know and God knows that is IMPOSSIBLE the way I am. Life is scary for me, not having having many thoughts means not being able to figure out were to stand, how much to eat, how to avoid somone on a grocery ile, not having any Idea if I am doing to much( like work and such) and not being able to figure out how to have a conversation ect...

I would ask that you would not be quick to judge me for being scared. if you had a brain like mine you would understand the nightmare I have to fight through to survive to serve God( the best that I can) and help others.
Love you all-- Jay
Hello Jay, I’m curious about your situation because I’ve had some extreme cognitive problems in the past that sound like what you’re describing, and discovered it was related to chemical and food sensitivities and allergies. I hope I’m not overstepping by asking, but is this something that came out of nowhere and/or is it something doctors have diagnosed for you?
 
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Hello Jay, I’m curious about your situation because I’ve had some extreme cognitive problems in the past that sound like what you’re describing, and discovered it was related to chemical and food sensitivities and allergies. I hope I’m not overstepping by asking, but is this something that came out of nowhere and/or is it something doctors have diagnosed for you?
Have you read the comment above were I responded to Yusuphhai?
 
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Have you read the comment above were I responded to Yusuphhai?
I did see your comment. I understand that it is not just thinking slow. The description of your experiences sounds like what I went through before I found out I had chemical and food allergies. My brain felt as though it was not functioning as it should be. I apologize if I’m not understanding your situation very well. :)
 
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I did see your comment. I understand that it is not just thinking slow. The description of your experiences sounds like what I went through before I found out I had chemical and food allergies. My brain felt as though it was not functioning as it should be. I apologize if I’m not understanding your situation very well. :)
I know you mean well and everything but I have been living with this my whole life and it just keeps getting worse. My wife divorced me and the kids hate me because it has gotten so extreme. Not trying to make light of the allergy thing I believe it can be very sever, it's just not that, unless allergies can cause you to have no thoughts going through your mind most of the day. Doctors are looking into it but I know there is a good chance they will never figure it out.
 
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I know you mean well and everything but I have been living with this my whole life and it just keeps getting worse. My wife divorced me and the kids hate me because it has gotten so extreme. Not trying to make light of the allergy thing I believe it can be very sever, it's just not that, unless allergies can cause you to have no thoughts going through your mind most of the day. Doctors are looking into it but I know there is a good chance they will never figure it out.
I’m so sorry to hear all that you’re going through. I hope the doctors can help somehow. Praying for your healing :praying:
 
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I’m so sorry to hear all that you’re going through. I hope the doctors can help somehow. Praying for your healing :praying:
Thank you, many days just knowing that people like you are paying for me helps brighten my day and helps me to keep pushing on.
 
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Do you know what it's like to get a big long lecture about all the things that you are doing wrong by you your own father, and all you can do is shiver and shake because your brain cant process and think at the same time? No thoughts to leave or defend yourself. All you can do is sit there and take it like a beating because thats the way your brain works? I am not trying to sound rude Just trying to explain it is not just thinking slow.
Hi, I read the first sentence and I had to laugh because I know that feeling all too well. I pretended to be "neurotypical" for five years living in a major city, and I got burned out. When I came back home, my dad scolded me as though I was a six year-old-child, even though I am 38. It was a total emasculation. I never felt so small. Anyway, I say this as someone who has ADHD. Most people with this condition have extremely low self-esteem because we have been criticized and lectured our whole lives and just assumed that we must be bad or worthless. I am just now waking up to the fact that the ADHD mind is its own creature and we should NOT be compared to people who don't have ADHD.

Might I suggest, if you aren't doing so already, to try to move around and get outside as much as you can. Personally, I don't relate well to others even though people think I am very social. They don't see that it's a mask. What I am trying to say is that even though being around people makes me feel less a part of things, it's still important for me to be around people because it keeps me outside my head.

It sounds like you have your own journey and I don't want to "tell you what to do", but I do know with the exercise and being out and about with people makes me feel better usually. All I can do is come at this dilemma with my own little contribution. Hopefully more people can contribute. You're in my prayers.
 
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Hey Lov4,

Just wanna throw in that for a person with your challenges you certainly are articulate. Just sayin'! And I lost my family 17 years ago and I promise you'll survive and even thrive again. Divorce strikes right at your identity, doesn't it? He'll restore your name by exalting HIS name through you, all in His time. OK?

God bless and still praying for you. If you ever need encouragement just drop me or any of us the word!
 
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Hi, I read the first sentence and I had to laugh because I know that feeling all too well. I pretended to be "neurotypical" for five years living in a major city, and I got burned out. When I came back home, my dad scolded me as though I was a six year-old-child, even though I am 38. It was a total emasculation. I never felt so small. Anyway, I say this as someone who has ADHD. Most people with this condition have extremely low self-esteem because we have been criticized and lectured our whole lives and just assumed that we must be bad or worthless. I am just now waking up to the fact that the ADHD mind is its own creature and we should NOT be compared to people who don't have ADHD.

Might I suggest, if you aren't doing so already, to try to move around and get outside as much as you can. Personally, I don't relate well to others even though people think I am very social. They don't see that it's a mask. What I am trying to say is that even though being around people makes me feel less a part of things, it's still important for me to be around people because it keeps me outside my head.

It sounds like you have your own journey and I don't want to "tell you what to do", but I do know with the exercise and being out and about with people makes me feel better usually. All I can do is come at this dilemma with my own little contribution. Hopefully more people can contribute. You're in my prayers.
I appreciate the advice... but I have nothing close to ADHD. Trying to explain it all gets overwhelming and most people just think Im paranoid. But God himself knows that what I say is all true and he knows my brain isn't anywhere close to the way most people assume that it is. It is just realy hard when I can't really have a conversation and people call me a liar and I am treated like a normal man but my brain cant work anywhere close to how a normal mans brain. It's like faith since it's unseen most people don't believe. I have been living with this for 37 years and everyone trys to tell me whats wrong. I have cried many sleepless nights praying that people wouldn't just assume that its somthing I can control and improve on.
 
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