Recent content by dee1001

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    bipolar wife in mixed-state, and I don't know what to do

    I yet again made the mistake of trying to have a rational conversation, with someone who is irrational. I was at a loss of words most of the time. I was told I treat her like a child, because she knows nothing of our banking. The reality is, I have tried many times in the past to tell her, and...
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    bipolar wife in mixed-state, and I don't know what to do

    I have wanting to do this, but usually there is no warning. I will try and think how this could be accomplished. The laws are very strict here, a camera can be used, but always someone in the view of the camera needs to have given consent. So say a neighbour was there, and she had a episode...
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    bipolar wife in mixed-state, and I don't know what to do

    Do you have an idea how I could even relay these ideas without triggering an episode, in a way she would implement them, go for further assessment? It can be that volatile. It does not help that her relatives really reinforce the stigma associated with mental illness.
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    bipolar wife in mixed-state, and I don't know what to do

    "Include the elimination of her episodes, or if you feel that's medically impossible, perhaps a sequence of behavioral steps when an episode arises as an item that you need. By that I mean, for example, that as soon as an episode starts that she retreats to a room (or a place away from you)...
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    bipolar wife in mixed-state, and I don't know what to do

    Thank you DaisyDay, yes, I certainly have secondary trauma, there is no doubt. Honestly, "zombified" would be a relief, even for a little time.
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    bipolar wife in mixed-state, and I don't know what to do

    Thanks for your reply Coady. Sometimes, when I am at work, tears just stream down my face, I am having a hard time dealing with this. Every morning I pray for progress, something. I start shaking sometimes, because the stress is so hard. :(
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    bipolar wife in mixed-state, and I don't know what to do

    Hello everyone, Will try and keep this concise. Married twelve years. Wife is from northern europe, difficult upbringing. We have had a lot of disappointments in life. Adopted our son, was recently dx'ed with FASD (fetal alcohol), which is challenging to deal with. My wife has struggled...