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    Toxic marriage & infidelity. What now?

    Thank you. This was hard to hear but needed. I definitely own up to my affairs. And they were not at all justified in anyway due to my marriage issues. They were selfish and negligent on my part. Forgiving myself for them is another thing. I'm sure it is easy to tell I have self esteem issues...
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    Toxic marriage & infidelity. What now?

    Meaning my spouse? He says if we divorce, he will lose his business and I'll ruin the children's lives. I really do think he just wants me in the role of a childcare and control most of all. I do think he loves me in his way and I love him but I worry he will continue neglecting me when I...
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    Toxic marriage & infidelity. What now?

    He is aware at times but also tries to gaslight and say they're not as bad as they are. (The times he was violent.) He has stopped drinking since we began reconciliation. And has not put his hands on the kids. I also have stood up to him countless times about that. The violence against the...
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    Toxic marriage & infidelity. What now?

    I will try not to make this run long. In short I'm the wayward spouse. I've been married 14 years, 3 young children. I've been a stay at home parent while my spouse has a career. I've worked a few small jobs over the years but my spouse wanted me to stay home and raise the kids. Our marriage...